How to explore clit tapping

Sitting in a local bar with three of my closest female friends, talk soon turned from climbing the career ladder and navigating the daily grind to an altogether more exciting type of grind. The good old grind that involves fucking your lover until you’re breathless or flicking your bean with your favorite toy until you cum.

We covered all the usual sex topics including tips on how to deep throat without gagging and spluttering, which positions we like best (reverse cowgirl seems to top the list), and where to buy stay-up stockings that really do stay up. But we also touched on something new, a technique I had not heard of until then — clit tapping. I listened in awe as one of my pals talked us through how to explore clit tapping, and I left the bar determined to give it a go.

Before I tell you how it went, I should explain what clit tapping is. There’s no mystery here, the clue is in the name — clit tapping involves, quite literally, tapping the clit. But like most things in life, it’s not what you do but how you do it that counts. The taps should be delicate, this is not about banging on your clitty hood like you’re playing the drums. Instead, tap with the fingertip, hitting with just enough force to feel the pleasant sensation. The taps should be almost rhythmical, play a tune in your head if it helps — tap, tap, tap, slight pause, tap, tap, tap.

In the past I’ve rubbed my clitty, and that’s always proved to be a great way to get turned on. I caress my button, gently rubbing from side to side and up and down, changing direction and pace. When I rub, I keep my fingers or hand on my clit, maintaining close contact as I get revved up.

That’s where clitty rubbing differs from clitty tapping. Rubbing involves maintaining contact, while tapping involves touching and then moving away slightly, before touching again. I quite like the intensity of rubbing, but I know some find the sensation too concentrated, and one of my friend’s actually describes clit rubbing as painful. If you have a sensitive clit, tapping could be the way to go.

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Clit tapping solo or with your lover

I’ve been masturbating for as long as I can remember, with my fingers, with a sex toy, with a cushion between my thighs — I’m relatively laid back when it comes to self-love. I enjoy flicking my bean as much as the next girl, but now and again I want to step away from my comfort zone and try out other ways to turn myself on, and my clit has always been a go-to for intensity.

If you’re interested in trying clit tapping as part of your solo fun, take it easy on your first expedition. Tap carefully, using four fingers to gently pat the vulva. The vulva acts as a shell for the clit, so the sensations should be less intense. Tapping in this way will also arouse the nerve endings around the vulva, so you get clitty and vulva fun in one.

Try changing things up by using a different number of fingers as you grow in confidence. Tap your vulva with three and two fingers before dropping down to a single digit. Move your fingers around the vulva area to find out what gives you perfect fanny flutters. You can change the pace and power too. If you aren’t feeling the love from your clitty tapping it could be that you’re going in too light or too slight. Speed the tapping slightly and apply more pressure to see if that makes a difference.

While I love playing with myself, I like to get my lover in on the action too. My guy is open to trying out new techniques and he was interested in clit tapping. He was slightly hesitant at first, worrying that he might tap over enthusiastically and cause me pain rather than pleasure. However we kept it slow and steady, which worked well for me, and my lover had a knack for keeping the tempo!

We also tried combining clit tapping with other play. I tried rubbing and tapping, interchanging the two techniques. I couldn’t help but giggle at that point as it reminded me of that game I used to play as a kid where you tried to rub your tum and pat your head at the same time. Needless to say, my lover and I abandoned that as we couldn’t keep a straight face.

The clit tapping warmed us up but I needed more, and gently guided my lover’s head to the sweet spot between my thighs. He happily lapped at my pussy, using his tongue to flick my lips and gently penetrate my hole. Oral always drives me crazy and I arched my back, lifting my hips to offer up my vagina to his mouth.

I felt the tension rise, but my guy decided to tease me by moving his head away and returning to the rhythmical tap of fingertips on the vulva. Already turned on, this proved to be a master move and my pussy tingled, longing for an orgasm. I didn’t cum from the tapping alone but found that technique, combined with my lover going down on me to be an exquisite way to climax.

More clit tapping adventures to cum…

So far, so good for the clit tapping, but I want to try out a few more things, as I’m not sure I’ve got the best from this interesting technique yet. I’ve heard sex toys can be used in conjunction with the tapping, and I have a feeling this will drive my clit, and pussy wild.

I’ve also asked my guy to have a go at penis tapping next time, where he taps my sensitive vulva area with his cock. I’m not sure we’ll be able to engage in this without breaking into laughter, but we’re sexplorers, and we’ll give most things a try, at least once.

By Astolaine.